Dance the Dance!

I hang around women all the time that seem to think that they have FOREVER to find happiness. When often times, forever never comes. They think to themselves if they could only look a certain way, lose a certain amount of weight, basically, change something in their body, it would then bring happiness. As I get older I realize I have set myself these same unrealistic ideas. I have passed up opportunities to frolic on the beach in a bikini, wear the little red hot dress, flirt with the hot guy next to me and dance the night away. Lacking the ability to enjoy who I was at that moment made me shut down and not live many happy moments that came across my way. This makes me very sad . I wish that all women could see themselves as worthy of happiness regardless shapes and sizes. When men are unhappy they attack the world and women, on the other hand attack themselves. Notice that men, allow vast limits to their personal handling of their disatisfactin as for us, we limit all our grunges on our frames.

If we could only realize that it's not the perfect figure or face that generates joy! Happiness is a frame of mind and you can chose to be happy at 300 Lbs just as easy as at a size 0. Some of the women that I have met, who have spent their live striving for perfection, whether it would be plastic surgery or killing themselves at the gym 7 days of the week are some of the saddest people you will ever meet. So it should not be our looks that should be our focus, it should be happiness itself.

I heard a quote once from a very wise older woman who sad, youthfulness is wasted in the young! So wherever you are in the ladder of life, smile, be happy and realize life will be gone in an instant and at the end all that would have mattered is how much fun you had along the way.


I know without a doubt that one day we will all look back and say... we should have danced the dance.

Michelle Heavens

Modern Day Pin Up Girl!

Who would have thought that throughout these years women have been starving themselves trying to fit into -1 sizes only to find out that men are hard wired by genetic sublime thoughts that are nature generated. As "un-sexy" as it may sound, men desire women with big hips, and small waists. This is nature whispering in their ears they would be fertile ground to carry their family genes.

For the past three generations women been deriving their opinion on feminine sexiness dictated by fashion and design trends when we should really been looking for clues in men's magazines where women have curves. Even when your own man is telling you look great with the extra meat on your bones, we do not believe them! I remember once showing my boyfriend the picture of a model on a magazine and bragging about her perfect looks when he looked over and said : " She may be pretty, but she is not hot!" When I asked why, he simply said: "She's got no curves, no tits, no ass, no fun!"

It is nice to see that the trend setters in Hollywood and the Fashion World are finally starting to revert the tendency back in time to the quintessential pin up girl! The modern day pin up girl has come to stay thanks to women like Jennifer Lopez, Beyonce, Eva Mendez, Salma Hayek, Anne Nichole, Charlize Johanssen, Jessica Alba, just to name a few.

We women have wasted too many years working very hard at being feminists, failing to understand the immense power of being truly feminine as well! Please don't misunderstand, I believe wholeheartedly in the feminist movement and what it has done for all of us. But I also think, that beauty along with intelligence can go twice as far!

So eat a sandwich, grab a burger and remember men love curves; do not be so hard on yourself! A size one is no longer in Vogue!

Michelle Heavens

Michelle Heavens & Dr. Hochstein Ocean Drive Magazine

On a recent Saturday morning, Lenny Hochstein stood in a white T-shirt and maroon nylon warm-up looking through the sunlight water of his new swimming pool. "She was flat chested when she came here,' he said, deadpan, referring to the dark-blue mermaid with the large round breasts depicted in tile at the bottom. His own pectorals bulged slightly beneath his shirt, offering a hint of the auburn-haired 40-year-old doctor's muscular, compact body. Beyond the pool, past the lawn and the 38-foot red, orange, and white Top Gun TG Cigarette boat docked along the sea wall, Biscayne Bay glimmered, with the silver arch f the Julia Tuttle Causeway in the distance. That's the view from the backyard of his 11,000-square-foot mansion o the north shore of one of Miami Beach's Sunset Islands. Throughout the house, a platoon of carpenters was rushing to finish 11th-hour painting, tiling and electrical work before the April 28rh birthday bash he was hosting for his friend, club promoter and real-estate developer Michael Capponi.
"I'm planning on having a lot of parties," the soft spoken surgeon told me during a tour of the premises, accounting for the two "powder rooms" on the ground floor.

My first Steps To Fighting Aging

I had my upper lids done (Blepherplasty) at age 37. This by far is now my most favorite cosmetic procedure! As we age our eyes start to change losing that amond shape that makes us look and feel young. The makeup starts to look bad and people start to ask you if you are tierd when you just had a good night's sleep. This procedure can take away years in just 30 to 45 minutes. Most of your friends and family will never know if you can stay away for a few short weeks. Then when you reemerge you will look so refreshed people will think you sold yourself to the devil! lol Best of all if you are afraid of general anesthesia, upper lids can be done under local. To round it all off I started using Botox around my eyes and forehead. And although I did not have deep set wrinkles I learned that wrinkles are a form of scars and if let go you will not be able to get rid of them. I also started using Radiesse around my Nasolabia folds. Radiesse is made from synthetic Hydroxyapatite, very much like the primary component in bones and teeth. The product last anywhere from a year to a year and a half. It is also a good filler for cheek enhancements and cost anywhere from $ 750 - $1500 depending on the doctor. For the tightening and resurfacing of my skin I opted for thermage and dermabrasion along with the use of Renova a few times a week. Renova is not an over the counter product so you will need to see your Dermatologist for a prescription but it is well worth it. Not only does it tighten the skin but it also reduces the fine lines and wrinkles. :) Recent research has also found that there is an increase in the ablilty for your skin to produce more collagen with regular use of Renova, which is the key to a young healthy face. = )

My little bag of treats!

I few years back I had the pleasure of meeting two of the most beautiful seventy something year old ladies. Soon after this is when I started changing my life. Just looking at their faces made me realize its never to late to make a change for the better. Not only was their skin almost wrinkle free but they were both glowing. I had to ask them there beauty secrites right then and there. And what they told me was very basice,
Every day they took a few Supplements and drank plenty of of water and used retinal cream.
Anti aging Supplements
coQ10, Vitamin C, Vitamin E, Essential Fatty Acids, DMAE, Magnesium, and Manganese.

The Dash

The Dash
I hope you enjoy this as much as I did, and maybe it will help you take life a little slower and with more meaning.In July 2006, we launched a short 3-minute movie on the Internet called The Dash. Since then, over 40 million people from around the world have watched it; and over 20,000 a day continue to watch it as a result of people passing it along.The movie has been more successful than we could have ever imagined. More importantly, however, it has inspired many, many people to reflect on their lives and ask that all important question, 'Are my priorities where they should be?'We hope you enjoy this movie and share it with those who are close to you.Click This Link to View the www.dashpoemmovie.comhttp://
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Live the Life You Have Imagined

Save the Face Lipo the Body

Today more then ever both products and procedures are more effective at fighting back the signs of aging. We are increasingly more able to hold off the aging proses by taking care of ourselves before they start. It is far greater to try and prevent the signs of aging then try to cure them after they have formed. Small procedures done early will preserve and protect your youthful appearance for years to come, although I believe it is never to let to make a change for the better.


As I come closer to my forties I have had to make a few changes in the way I view my body and one of the first was my weight. I have always had very strong facial features with high cheek bones and hollow checks which looked great when I was in my twenties and early thirties but things change around age 35. One day I looked at a photo of myself and realize my face was changing and I needed to do something about it.


At this point I knew I needed to gain some weight to improve the way my face looked, but I wasn't to happy to lose my shape, my body. I remember reading a quote from some famous women were she said "its either the face or the body". Then a few weeks after that I was watching the Today Show when a woman got on and talked about getting to that last pound. She said that if you keep working out and eating right you can get rid of your stubborn fat areas. Well in my practice I see this all the time, women trying to get rid of those few remaining pounds only to look ten years older in the face. So I started thinking could I have it both?


Well off I went to gain weight and in the first few months I got a lot of compliments on how wonderful I looked. that indeed my face looked wonderful and healthier. This made me really happy but at the same time I was starting to notice this fat roll that was forming around my middle and I remember the old saying " its either the face or the body" ug. This did not make me very happy at all so I started thinking about Lipoing the new problem areas that have come up and in doing so, making my body fat even. Meaning; one part of my body should not have to suffer for the other parts to look good. So I wasted no time and set a date for my surgery. I was not ready to give up my face or my body!


I had gained weight in my inner thighs and my hips and abdomen which is very common for most women. All in all the doctor took out a litter and a half of fat which turned out to be all I needed. Now I feel that I have the best of both worlds, still a full face and a slim body.


Now my new saying is "Save the Face Lipo the Body".

Michelle Heavens

Perceptions

When you consider it to be a beautiful day, it is.
When you believe that you are happy, you are.
Expect to find an answer, and you will.
Know that something is possible for you, and it surely comes about.

Your perceptions do not merely reflect an objective,
unresponsive reality over which you have no control.
Your perceptions shape the reality that you experience.
The way you see your life has a great influence on the way your life unfolds.
How are you choosing to see your life?

Your perceptions shine a light upon the world around you.
The world that you actually experience depends on how
And where you shine that light.
How do you most sincerely wish for this day, this life, this world to be?
What you choose to see is what you will cause to be.

-Author Unknown

Wrinkles and Time By Michelle Heavens

I am not sure if it is the wrinkles that bother me or if it is what they represent. I have noticed lately that when I look down at my hands or the corner of my eyes I have a feeling of anxiety, not for the wrinkles themselves but for what they represent to me. They remind me that life is short and precious. They remind me there is so much more to do and so little time to accomplish all my hope and dreams. I think that when we are young and our skin is perfect we feel immortality as if we are vampires, creatures of the night, able to live forever with perfect bodies and skin. Now when I see that my skin has started to fade I find myself in a hurry to do all the things I believed myself possible of doing. In this body that is ever changing I sometimes worry will there be enough time? I think that many women have the same worries, no matter what path you chose. I am not sure what the recipe is or even if there is one recipe, but I do know that I have spent a large part of my life worrying about the inevitable. We will grow old and we will wrinkle. As I go through my journey I become more comfortable with this process but I am so ever thankful that each year there are new techniques and solutions to slow down the inevitable.
I guess I am happy to finally realize that time is precious even if I had to see it in my hands and the corner of my eyes, but I am also grateful that there is Botox and lasers that can buy me more time. Time is all we need when it comes to accomplishments.

Michelle Heavens

A favor to ask, it only takes a minute....

Please tell ten friends to tell ten today! The Breast Cancer site is having trouble getting enough people to click on their site daily to meet their quota of donating at least one free mammogram a day to an underprivileged woman. It takes less than a minute to go to their site and click on 'donating a mammogram' for free (pink window in the middle).
This doesn't cost you a thing. Their corporate sponsors/advertisers use the number of daily visits to donate mammogram in exchange for advertising.
Here's the web site! Pass it along to people you know.
http://www.thebreastcancersite.com/

Help save a Child

Hi All,
One of my best friends Rebecca and her husband Dade will be going on a trip soon to Southeast Asia, in particular they will be spending some time in Cambodia, where they have funded the construction of a house for a homeless cambodian family and will be presenting it to them. Once they leave you can read about their adventures through thier indepth blog
( http://www.wherearetheynow.typepad.com/ ) The situation in Cambodia is very bad, with very young children being sold into the sex trade or forced to scavenge garbage dumps for things they can sell to try and help feed their families. In cambodia, a child cannot go to school unless he/she has a uniform and supplies, which amounts to a total of $9 annually. Although there is a lot of help you could do beyond that, I am asking that you please take a look at this link and do whatever you feel comfortable with. Even $9 will significantly change a life.

Wisdom Meets Beauty!

For the last eight years I have been working with women of all shapes, backgrounds, sizes and ages! I am surrounded by them! For some, this may be considered a challenge, but I love it! My experiences with these women has helped me to grow in untold ways! I have come to realize that being a woman has its own set of rules that can be very complicating to navigate. We start young and beautiful, so unaware of our power, which will take a life time of experances to harness. And by the time you start to figure it all out, and feel great about yourself on the inside, your outside starts to fall apart. So this is why I love working in the Plastic Surgery Field. It is the one thing that can start to bring the two elements together where wisdom finally meets beauty!

I am not saying that Plastic Surgery is for everybody or that you are at that point yet, but for myself it has been a great experience. We live in a world with many mixed messages. We are supposed to be mothers, career women and hot, a basic "super woman"- that is impossible to obtain! At the same time, you hear the age old saying that men, just like fine wine, get better with age and women just age!

I meet women of all ages and the amazing thing is that Beauty does come from the inside. When you feel good about yourself and you carry yourself with confidence you are hot! But lets face it we all want to look good on the outside too no matter how enlightened we become. And although I may not be able to work on your insides which is crucial, I have learned a few tricks when it comes to holding back the inevitable.

I've been wanting to share my own experiences as well as those of the women around me, so I thought why not begin a blogg! So if you have any stories to share about growing up in this unfair world, I am all ears!