Dance the Dance!

I hang around women all the time that seem to think that they have FOREVER to find happiness. When often times, forever never comes. They think to themselves if they could only look a certain way, lose a certain amount of weight, basically, change something in their body, it would then bring happiness. As I get older I realize I have set myself these same unrealistic ideas. I have passed up opportunities to frolic on the beach in a bikini, wear the little red hot dress, flirt with the hot guy next to me and dance the night away. Lacking the ability to enjoy who I was at that moment made me shut down and not live many happy moments that came across my way. This makes me very sad . I wish that all women could see themselves as worthy of happiness regardless shapes and sizes. When men are unhappy they attack the world and women, on the other hand attack themselves. Notice that men, allow vast limits to their personal handling of their disatisfactin as for us, we limit all our grunges on our frames.

If we could only realize that it's not the perfect figure or face that generates joy! Happiness is a frame of mind and you can chose to be happy at 300 Lbs just as easy as at a size 0. Some of the women that I have met, who have spent their live striving for perfection, whether it would be plastic surgery or killing themselves at the gym 7 days of the week are some of the saddest people you will ever meet. So it should not be our looks that should be our focus, it should be happiness itself.

I heard a quote once from a very wise older woman who sad, youthfulness is wasted in the young! So wherever you are in the ladder of life, smile, be happy and realize life will be gone in an instant and at the end all that would have mattered is how much fun you had along the way.


I know without a doubt that one day we will all look back and say... we should have danced the dance.

Michelle Heavens

Modern Day Pin Up Girl!

Who would have thought that throughout these years women have been starving themselves trying to fit into -1 sizes only to find out that men are hard wired by genetic sublime thoughts that are nature generated. As "un-sexy" as it may sound, men desire women with big hips, and small waists. This is nature whispering in their ears they would be fertile ground to carry their family genes.

For the past three generations women been deriving their opinion on feminine sexiness dictated by fashion and design trends when we should really been looking for clues in men's magazines where women have curves. Even when your own man is telling you look great with the extra meat on your bones, we do not believe them! I remember once showing my boyfriend the picture of a model on a magazine and bragging about her perfect looks when he looked over and said : " She may be pretty, but she is not hot!" When I asked why, he simply said: "She's got no curves, no tits, no ass, no fun!"

It is nice to see that the trend setters in Hollywood and the Fashion World are finally starting to revert the tendency back in time to the quintessential pin up girl! The modern day pin up girl has come to stay thanks to women like Jennifer Lopez, Beyonce, Eva Mendez, Salma Hayek, Anne Nichole, Charlize Johanssen, Jessica Alba, just to name a few.

We women have wasted too many years working very hard at being feminists, failing to understand the immense power of being truly feminine as well! Please don't misunderstand, I believe wholeheartedly in the feminist movement and what it has done for all of us. But I also think, that beauty along with intelligence can go twice as far!

So eat a sandwich, grab a burger and remember men love curves; do not be so hard on yourself! A size one is no longer in Vogue!

Michelle Heavens